The Pause Room: When Midlife Kicks Off, Here’s Your Space

Let me start by saying… I didn’t set out to build a business for menopausal women.

When perimenopause hit hard (and I had NO idea that’s what it was at the time) — anxiety, rage, brain fog, skin that stopped playing nicely, confidence that vanished practically overnight, and a whole host of other “things” — I just kept going.

Smiling. Raising my then‑teenage son as a single parent. Running a busy, successful salon.

But inside? I was completely lost, confused, and furious.

The idea for The Pause Room came much later, after I’d finally crawled out of the mess, started to see an inkling of “me” again, and realised what I’d needed all along: a safe, understanding space.

Not more banal advice. And definitely not someone telling me “you’ll be fine,” “I got through it, so will you,” or — even worse — “just relax.”
(Has that ever worked without you going from 0–60 in 0.1 of a second and straight through the roof?)

I mean an actual space. Space to breathe. To feel human again. To not have to hold it all together for everyone else. To just… be.

After nearly 30 years of hands‑on therapy — massage, skin health, reflexology, hormonal support — and treating hundreds of women who’ve quietly asked me, “Is this just me?” I can tell you: it’s not.

We’re expected to juggle it all. Keep smiling. Stay calm. Cope.

The Pause Room says: stuff that! Your feelings are valid, and what you’re going through sucks.

These treatment rituals aren’t fluffy (there’s nothing wrong with fluffy) and they’re not some magical fix.

I’m not here to “fix” you. I’m here to walk alongside you, support you, and give you a space to calm the chaos.

Hormone‑supportive massage, menopause‑specific reflex points, skin rituals, and touch therapy — all designed to help you reconnect with parts of yourself that got lost somewhere between the hot flushes and the mood swings.

And if you’ve ever muttered “what the hell is happening?” into your moisturiser, you’re absolutely in the right place.

Not quite ready to come and see me at The Pause Room?

Head over to my Resources page, where you’ll find my eBook Feral Chihuahuas & Fine Lines – A Menopause Field Guide to Skin, Soul & Sanity (with a little added snarling).

It’s full of helpful hints and tips on navigating the minefield that is menopause (and yes, I mention the Lime Ritual three times because I love it).